As many of you know, my six-year-old daughter, Allie, is the inspiration behind Crossing Arrows.  It was her spirited taste and desire to wear boy clothes that led to the creation of Crossing Arrows.  Although Allie is the face of Crossing Arrows, my 12-year-old, Grace, is a huge inspiration to me as well.  She doesn’t get enough credit for all that ways she contributes to Crossing Arrows.  She is my model, encourager and helps with a lot of the social media side of the business.  So, let me introduce her.

Meet Grace Elizabeth Louise.  Grace is the sweetest, most compassionate and giving girl I have ever met.  Her wit and humor make me laugh EVERY.SINGLE.DAY!  She is passionate about her academia and works diligently every day.  She is a stud at soccer and on the volleyball court.  Grace also plays viola and lights up any room she walks into.  She has the most giving spirit of anyone I know.  Can you tell I am super proud to be her mom?

One thing about Grace, she rarely ever gets in trouble.  She has been the easiest child to raise.  She hates to disappoint and makes parenting a pre-teen so fun and enjoyable.  We truly laugh a lot.  Here are just a few pics to prove that.

Grace’s favorite things in life include…dogs, soccer, volleyball, teaching herself gymnastics, working tirelessly on the trampoline to nail her front handspring, makeup, spending time with her friends and loving on her super awesome mom (okay so she may argue the super awesome part).  Oh and let me not forget her favorite thing…taking selfies with a double chin.  She sends me random double chin pics throughout the week.  HILARIOUS!!  She thinks it is hilarious and what I love about her, she posts them on her social media accounts.  How funny is that?  The boys love her and she could care less, she is who she is and doesn’t hesitate to share her silliness with everyone.  I LOVE her lack of reservations…even at her age.

So, about a month ago Grace got her phone taken away for a bad choice she made when she was with her friends.  A very innocent bad choice but I wanted to teach her a lesson, so no phone for a week.

After the second day of no phone, I received a string of images on my phone sent from the iPad at home that read: This is me without my phone. I hope you’re enjoying this cruelty.


<Insert laughter>

So, here she is folks…Grace in all of her hilarious and witty glory!  Isn’t she the coolest?  I promise when she’s old enough to have a boyfriend, he will be shown these pics.


435 Magazine

435 Magazine Cover

We were recently featured in the April edition of 435 Kansas City’s Magazine.  We thought Allyson did an incredible job of capturing our story so, we wanted to share it with you.  A huge shout out to Allyson Wilson!  Thank you for all the ways you showed excitement for our brand and our story!



words Allyson Wilson

Many parents know to pick their battles with kids, but Tricia Steffes decided to pick her battles with something much bigger: gender stereotypes.

Through her children’s clothing brand, Crossing Arrows, the Kansas City mother of two calls to spirited girls, a.k.a. tomboys, by empowering them to embrace their individuality with fun and high-energy clothing while fighting gender stereotypes.

Created in 2016, the brand was inspired by Steffes’ own experiences with her magnetic, spunky and spirited daughter, Allie.

At 2 years old, Allie decided she had no interest in princesses or the color pink; she much preferred to express herself through boy clothes.  After two and half years of struggling to get her daughter into anything girly, Steffes gave Allie’s way a try, letting her shop in the boys’ section.  Not only did she notice a difference in her daughter, but she also saw a need for more options for girls like Allie.

“I’ve gotten such incredible feedback from people who have purchased from us – from parents, people who have come across our line and gone, ‘Oh my gosh, I wish they had that when I was a kid.’ It’s nice to know that we are making an impact.”Tricia Steffes

“I realized over time how many children were more confident wearing what made them happy,” Steffes recalls, “And I realized that parents wouldn’t let their little girls wear boy clothes because of gender stereotyping. So that’s when I decided, ‘OK, I’m going to design a line of clothing that allows little girls to dress how they want without the stigma of being called a boy.”

Crossing Arrows appeals to every kind of girl – from the rough-and-tumble athletic tomboys, to the creative, academic minds like Steffes’ older daughter Grace – through products like superhero capes, leggings and Rowen Christian couture jeans.  Its best-seller is its collection of graphic tees printed by H&H Bandwagon.  The tees are emblazoned with fun and encouraging messages, like “Superhero Ninja Princess” – because some girls want to be all three, Steffes says – “Donut Holes Not Gender Roles,” “Future Coder” and “Be Adventurous.”

Designs like the “Squad Goals” tees feature real-life, literary and film heroes that girls are familiar with (think Ellen DeGeneres, Maya Angelou, Harry Potter’s Hermione Granger and Disney’s Moana and Mulan) while introducing them to new ones like Anne Shirley, Cassie Logan (Roll of Thunder, Hear My Cry) and Jean Louise “Scout” Finch (To Kill a Mockingbird).

Steffes found that adults want to celebrate their inner spirited girls, too.  The company originally launched with children’s sizes, but after receiving an abundance of emails from mothers and other spirited girls wondering if they could get shirts in adult sizes, Steffes happily obliged.

“It’s fun,” she says.  “I’ve gotten such incredible feedback from people who have purchased from us – from parents, people who have come across our line and gone ‘Oh my gosh, I wish they had that when I was a kid.” It’s nice to know that we are making an impact.”

Steffes wants Crossing Arrows to not only clothe children, but to also be platform for child advocacy, something she’s been passionate about since college.  Proceeds from the T-shirt sales benefit organizations like Harvesters and the Kansas City Child Protection Center.

In addition to new graphic tee designs, Steffes is in the works of adding a raglan T-shirt dress, a bomber jacket and drop-crotch pants to her arsenal.  She hopes to incorporate gender-neutral pieces, underwear, swimwear and pajamas in the brand, and she plans to host events geared towards empowering, encouraging and inspiring girls.

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